"Who Else has Endured Narcissism, Addictions & Abuse in an
Emotionally & Verbally Abusive Relationship, Desires to be Codependent No More,
and Seeks Recovery via Self Development or Spirituality/Spiritual Growth?"
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www. Narcissism Addictions
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A
Website from Benefiting Women, LLC.
 Author,
educator
and coach/guide
Dr.
Diane England has
the credentials you expect, plus she has empathy and
speaks from the
heart because she has been in an emotionally and verbally abusive
relationship with a
financially successful professional husband whose narcissism,
addictions, and
abuse took her life in directions she never intended for herself. But
finally,
she faced her fears, tackled her codependency, and pursued recovery
through self development
and
spiritual growth. She knows you can too--suggesting she might
believe in
more for you than you can believe for yourself right now. And couldn't
you use that type of assistance or support?
"Can
You Trust Me to Provide Sound Advice to Help You Use Your Emotionally
and
Verbally Abusive Relationship or Codependency as an Impetus
for
Self Development or Spiritual Growth?" Whenever I consult with someone to help me solve a problem, I want to know about their credentials. I suspect you're no different. We both know there's information out there on the internet you shouldn't trust. You need to be cautious and protect yourself. And if you have been dealing with a husband's narcissism, addictions, and abuse, you have already endured enough, I suspect. You want sound information about these topics, plus wouldn't you like to learn more about your own probable codependency and how to experience recovery--and perhaps even personal transformation--via self development and spirituality or spiritual growth? I hope you ultimately decide I'm worthy of your trust. While I'll share my credentials shortly, let me say a couple of things first because there's something important for you to understand: Sometimes a person isn't in a place psychologically to absorb and use everything she reads or hears. This could be true even if she is motivated to make changes, and the material she is referencing is sound. This could happen to you, and so you might find articles at this site that don't make sense or even seem wrong. If you were to return at a later date, however, the same articles could say exactly what you need to learn right then, and you would recognize this about them, too. Let me illustrate what I mean ny telling a story on myself. How I Ignored the Spirituality/Spiritual Growth Information in The Road Less Traveled In the days before I became Diane England, Ph.D. or married the man whose narcissism, addictions, and abuse would cause me immense emotional pain, I went to see a therapist. See, I was concerned that my life wasn't providing me with the joy I expected or desired. I liked my job well enough, but I didn't have passion for it. I wanted to experience this, though. I also wanted to have richer and more meaningful relationships. My therapist recommended a book for me to read. It was Dr. Scott Peck's bestselling book, The Road Less Traveled. I read it from cover to cover. The early chapters made sense to me. However, the closing chapters that dealt with spirituality and spiritual growth definitely did not. But at that time, I didn't know what the difference between spirituality and religiosity was. You might say I was spiritually bankrupt, in fact. Some people might say that the fact I was spiritually bankrupt also made me codependent. In other words, I suffered from codependency because I had an external focus versus an inward one. I looked to things and others to give me a sense of self and feelings of self worth versus turning inward to discover my true and higher self. Now, fast
forward about fifteen years. I'm laying on the bed relaxed after
sending my
husband off to treatment for his alcoholism and addiction to
prescription
drugs. While he's under the care of the capable professionals at the
Mayo
Clinic in And what was that book? You guessed it. The book was The Road Less Traveled. When I picked up this book for the second time, I already was attending meetings of the twelve-step program, Al-Anon. I'd already experienced what they talk about in this program as a spiritual awakening. As a result, when I read the final chapters of Dr. Peck's book with their references to spirituality and spiritual growth, they made sense to me. They hadn't fifteen years earlier, though, because my beliefs and world view were different then. Also, I wasn't ready psychologically to change them, and hence I didn't absorb what I read. Indeed, I had no memory as I read through this book the second time, that Dr. Peck had said some of the things he had. Actually, I was stunned to see printed there in black and white the very things I had recently come to believe. Do
You Need to Learn Truths about the
Verbally Abusive Relationship Today, then What am I trying to say here? That just because something isn't right for you at one point in your life, that doesn't mean it won't be a perfect fit at a later date. It might prove that way with some of the articles and information I present at www.NarcissismAddictionsAbuse.com Today you might only want to decide if your partner suffers from narcissism and is an addict, and if you might be a verbally abusive relationship because of this. Later, you might be motivated to learn how to become codependent no more using spirituality or spiritual growth to facilitate this And because you will have different needs at different times, and there are various articles at this site that can help you at those different stages of your journey, I encourage you to come back to this website periodically. And of course, I will add new articles from time-to-time as well, so you want to come back to check them out. But enough about that. I said I'd share my credentials, right? Let me do that now. Dr. Diane England's Training & Credentials As you already
know, I have a Ph.D. or doctorate. What you might not know is it is in
clinical
social work and granted by the Before that,
I'd received a Masters Degree in Family Studies with a minor in
Gerontology
from Unlike many clinical social workers, I have not spent my entire professional life in private practice. I have done other things as well. But then, I didn't return to school to pursue the Ph.D. until I was age thirty-eight. Much of my
early professional work involved managing progams, authoring materials,
and
presenting seminars that were designed to help people improve their
lives. I
first worked for a Federal program called the Cooperative Extension
Service. I
began as an Extension Agent at the country level, and then was promoted
to
become I became the
Director of Professional Education and Patient Services for the
American Cancer
Society, Oregon Division. This position was particularly challenging
because my
boss merged two departments into one at the state level, and then asked
me to
oversee the implementation of both departments' programs for the
greater Four years
later, I headed to the I pursued the Ph.D. in clinical social work following that job, causing me to move into the arena of social work. It was shortly after I began working on this degree that I entered my ill-fated second marriage. Both as I completed my dissertation, and then following attainment of the doctorate, I taught graduate social work courses at this university in the areas of human behavior in the social environment, research methods, and social welfare policy. I also supervised some of the students completing an internship in the department's community service clinic. Together, we conducted anger management classes that attracted not only couples, but many court-ordered men. I came to
establish a private practice after attaining the necessary licensure to
do
this. However, I ultimately gave that up to pursue an almost forgotten
but long
harbored dream. That was to live and work in I arrived while
Air Force pilots were still flying bombing missions over Kosovo from
this base.
I left when we were a year into the war in I worked with military members and their families who had to endure things they'd never anticipated. My primary role as Family Advocacy Outreach Manager was to work to prevent domestic violence as well as child abuse and neglect. I also worked extensively with the managers of other helping agencies and their programs to ensure we continued to offer the type of supportive services families needed to cope with the ever-changing demands placed upon them. Now, I am choosing to benefit women through my website, books I've written that should appear on the market within the next couple of years, and via teleconferences, seminars, and other services I will make available to select groups of women who desire something more intensive than this website can provide. I hope not only to help the woman in emotional pain because she is dealing with her husband's narcissism, addictions, and abuse regularly, but also the woman who have moved on and is interested in self improvement and personal development. I hope to work with those, too, who seek to get in touch with her spirituality and the creativity that might unleash. I founded Benefiting Women in 2005 as an internet marketing company because I had a vision that this way, I could help women who, not unlike I once had, found themselves struggling to cope with the war zones in their own homes. I wanted to help these women who were awakening to the fact they might need to divest themselves of their painful marriages because his narcissism, addictions, and abuse made for too toxic an environment in which to live. Yet, they hesitated because they remembered the men they had once loved that had behaved differently. Also, there were many things about their current lifestyles they did enjoy. I founded this company and this website because I have walked in similar shoes and felt similar pain. And trust me, I wasn't happy to give up my life and lifestyle to step into the great unknown. If it hadn't been for my husband's narcissism, addictions, and abuse (some pretty major things, of course), I'd have been thrilled with my lifestyle. Because I kept my problems hidden from all but a few close friends, I'm sure many people considered it enviable, too. What would they have thought if they'd known my dirty little secrets? Yes, I know how it is to awaken to butterflies in your stomach. I know how it is to silently pray he won't spray you with abuse before you have a chance to leave the house. I know how it is to back the car out of the garage with tears flowing so hard, that you hope you won't have an accident and cause him to explode into a more frightening rage yet. I know that sometimes your life can look very good on the outside, yet living it destroys your spirit. You feel you're dying a little bit more each day inside. I also know from personal experience that this is ultimately no kind of life. And so, I hope after reading some of the articles at this site today as well as in the days, weeks, and months to come, you'll find the ability to make different decisions for yourself. You'll also come to learn that a good life is about more than material things. When you are honoring who you are and feel filled with inner peace, a simple life can be a good life. Anyway, I hope you now feel more comfortable lingering here awhile. I also hope you feel comfortable enough to sign up for my newsletter so we can stay in touch. And why not sign up now also to become part of the site's forum? Start connecting with others who understand your emotional pain. You need their support--and they need yours, too! Dr. Diane England's Narcissism, Addictions, & Abuse Newsletter Article
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Page Disclaimer: This how-to and self-help relationship advice and information for women about his narcissism, addictions and abuse and her likely codependency and recovery via self development and spirituality/spiritual growth should be considered educational or inspirational—a guide or directory to things to consider and inform questions to ask a professional you contact for sound advice. It is not a substitute for marriage counseling, individual therapy, or legal advice. Women coping with domestic violence such as emotional abuse, verbal abuse, and/or sexual abuse—even where no physical abuse is present—are encouraged to seek professional help for treatment of depression, anxiety, self esteem, and other associated issues. Remember, the emotionally abusive or verbally abusive relationship can destroy you just as the physically abusive relationship can! © 2007, Benefiting Women, LLC. All material at www.NarcissismAddictionsAbuse is copyrighted. Feel free to duplicate and distribute this article for noncommercial and educational purposes, though we require it remain completely intact as laid out, from the header to the bottom of this copyright notice. No article may be placed on a website without permission. If you have a website that attracts women who might benefit from this self-help information--remember, we nver know who might be in a verbally abusive relationship, for example--please link to it.
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